Yes. This is a good read indeed. I’ve reposted a blog post from a friend’s blog: Miss Independent…you can check it out at: http://missindependent.co.ke/mydressmychoice/. What is outlined on the blog is what I’d call the true spirit of a blogger…people out there need to know that commenting on an event/situation through a blog post should never be about aggressive incitement. One should just give an honest, objective opinion…like what this blogger, and a very good friend of mine at that, has done 🙂
Much has been said about the unfortunate event Kenya witnessed last week. Campaigns. Hash Tags. Profile pictures and so on. To be honest, I was not going to air my view on it. The issue terrified me beyond belief I didn’t want to share an opinion before understanding its impact. I also didn’t want to upload a picture like the one below before I understood how to deal with such a crisis. They say there are 9 ways to kill a cat and until now am not sure what would do the trick. From my observation on Facebook and Instagram, uploading a #MyDressMyChoice picture illustrated your conclusive opinion on the matter.I wasn’t sure of anything really. I was simply in disbelief and sad that women’s dress code will now be influenced by fear as opposed to trends . So I kept quiet and didn’t upload this picture.
However, I have received couple of requests to share my opinion on the matter. It’s quite a challenge for me to give a conclusive and objective opinion because in reality, I don’t have all the facts. I don’t want to say much before knowing much. You get what I mean? Without a doubt, no woman should ever experience what most of us witnessed. I mean, I don’t even want to imagine what that lady is going through right now . Much as a number of Kenyans were not passive about the situation, it will take her a lot of time, counseling and courage to really heal. May God be with her.
One I would like to say that I truly appreciate the effort Kenyans have taken thus far. We are used to crazy things happening, trending and suddenly sent to the recycle bin. But this was not the case this time round and credit must be given where it’s due.
By the time men are undressing a woman in public, in my opinion, is a pathological case. What’s the logic anyway? If you feel someone is under dressed, why not offer a “leso?” I feel like counsellors and psychiatrists should be at the fore front suggesting ideas on how to deal with this crisis. If by virtue of it being sexual harassment did not stop this ordeal from happening, I am not sure a Social Media Campaign is one of the 9 ways I talked about earlier. While some argue that it’s pointless because the men that committed the crime are not online, I still feel that a Social Media Campaign has its space in combating this issue. But it’s definitely not sufficient! We are all being subjective, which expands the gap between those men and the activists.
First of all, in my opinion, this shouldn’t be a campaign addressed by women only. The moment we feminize the project, the men will immediately feel they have no business joining a #MyDressMyChoice campaign. By virtue of it being a women’s campaign only, we unconsciously accept that this is a situation that can ONLY happen to women. Why should the men be excluded? They might as well be undressed by other women who feel they have under dressed? You get what I mean? Men too should feel that this is a possible situation for them for the country to deal with this issue from a national perspective as opposed to an issue facing women only. If all women come together, the men capable of committing such a crime will perceive it as a bitter movement against men. However if both men and women joined hands to push this campaign, they will think twice as their fellow men are against their actions as well. I’m really tired of all these double standards we have in this country. Both men and women need to start dealing with issues from the same level because you know what, it can happen to anyone regardless of gender.
Personally, I am not fully equipped with the knowledge and skills on how to deal with such a crisis. My opinion is that both men and women should work on this together! Moreover, much has been said, but what has been done for that lady? Have people tried to take her for counseling? My point is, is the noise sustainable and does it have quantifiable impact?